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If only love came with a blueprint on how to decide if he’s the one or not.
You’ve probably searched for hours on the internet looking for signs and clues on how to know if he’s the one for you.
You’re exhausted with searching and looking under rocks to find clues to end your love search warrant.
Let’s face it.
All you need is the advice I’m giving to strategically know if he’s the one sent by God or just another person in your journal.
Let’s take a look aT 10 ways you can tell if he’s the one for you.
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10 WAYS TO TELL IF HE’S THE ONE FOR YOU ( The best way to find out)
1. SHARE THE SAME FAITH
Many people date without ever mentioning their beliefs.
You’re probably shaking your head and wondering how does one get that far without ever saying their faith beliefs.
Well, it’s a very overlooked step, especially if you desire to marry, and your time clock is ticking.
But, to know if God indeed sent this man, you must first share the same faith and not only that, but he must be able to live out the Bible in his daily actions.
Being a Christian is easy; it’s when you have to live out the Godly principles; that’s when you’ll separate him for just another journal entry or possible husband.
READ MORE: HOW TO PRAY FOR YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND
2. SHARE THE SAME CORE VALUES
When determining if this is your Godly arranged mate, pay attention, or ask questions to understand better their outlook on situations that may be super important to you.
- Home Schooling Children
- Career goals
- Financial goals
- Does he believe in sex before marriage?
- Does he believe in living together before marriage?
- Does he believe that cheating is only wrong if it’s physically and not mental.
Tough questions may be hard to ask initially, but it’s better to yoke yourself up with someone who’s going the same path that you’re.
At the end of these questions, you will have a clearer idea of your ideal mate. Asking these questions didn’t come easy for me, so I strongly relied upon books and other helpful resources to navigate the process. Try them out!
3. SPEAKS THE WORD OF GOD OVER YOU
Ask yourself, does he speak the word of God over you?
Does he shower you with grace, unconditional love, forgiveness, and mercy?
These are things to look for when you’re praying and asking God to give you a sign. Sometimes God works in the subtlety of life, everyday scenarios that may get overlooked- these scenarios are identifying factors that will help you.
Take your request unto the Lord, and if these steps seem hard to answer.
Pray that God will reveal His heart to you so that you will make the best decisions.
READ MORE: HOW TO PRAY FOR BEGINNERS
4. NEVER CORRUPTS YOUR GODLY CHARACTER
1 Corinthian 15:33 Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
Does this potential guy entice your flesh but dulls your spirit?
Does this potential guy corrupt your character to do things that aren’t pleasing and holy unto God for the relationship?
(Such as phone sex or compromising your standards on modesty)
The man that God has for you will never corrupt your character because he knows that you do not belong to him.
God honors holiness, and if you find yourself being lured into things that raise uneasiness within you.
Proceed with caution.
God may be pulling on your heart to take heed.
READ MORE: HOW TO REMAIN SEXUALLY PURE BEFORE MARRIAGE
5. FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT
Are you quickly able to identify and recognize the fruit of the spirit within him?
Something that has always helped is to add in their names in conjunction with this bible passage.
If certain things don’t apply because of the time restraint, give the relationship a little time to develop.
Or pray before God and ask HIM to provide you with insight into what you’re unable to see in the natural.
Here’s how to apply:
Read the 1 Corinthians 12:4-8 “
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
Right before the verb/noun, add their name before it.
Such as… Timmy is patient. Timmy is kind.
If you find yourself agreeing to what was written, take note of that. Once you have completed it – pray over it for more peace.
6. RESPECTS YOU
Your Godly future husband will respect you at all costs.
Not only will he respect you, but he will adore you because he sees the living God that dwells within you. If respect doesn’t come immediately, ask questions, and set boundaries.
And proceed with caution until God gives you a clear sign.
7. WILLINGNESS TO SUBMIT WITHOUT BEING FORCED
You’ll know if you’ve located the one God has for you when you’re willing to submit to him without him telling or persuading you too!
Yes, this isn’t as cut and dry as I am making it, but you will be willing to listen, honor, and respect his leadership without doubting that he knows what’s best.
You’ll submit to him willingly because you’re able to identify specific characteristics within him that was mentioned to you through prayer and time spent in the presence of the Lord.
8. MUTUAL ATTRACTION
As much as Jesus was spiritual, he was also physical. Meaning that not only will you be attracted to the one God has for you spiritually, but physically you will be attracted to him.
Something like a moth to a flame- you’ll feel immersed in his spirituality and his physicality. Many overlook physical, but it’s bondage to knowingly yoke yourself up with someone you ABSOLUTELY cannot find any positive highlights.
Yes, beauty isn’t necessary, but you want honestly want to be in love with your husband.
Feelings can grow over time, but if time has passed and it’s still nothing. Listen to that. The last thing you want to do is prematurely take someone out of the sight of his best match just because you settled.
9. THE ONE WAS REVEALED TO YOU WITHIN A DREAMS OR VISION
Has God revealed to you the man you’re currently interested in or dating in another season of your life? These are signs and confirmations from God that he’s the perfect match for you.
Now, I believe that God sends multiple partners to you depending on the season, or if that person rejects you or vice verse.
If God has revealed him to you, pray over that vision, that dream that Gods will be done.
10. FAMILY AND FRIENDS WILL SUPPORT THE RELATIONSHIP
You’ll know he’s the one when your family and friends honestly can see what has drawn you to that person. Love is fantastic, but it’s even better when supported by the people you love and cherish the most.
Now, I hope this list has given you insight and useful tips on how to decide if he is the one for you. Comment if this list helped you.
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